Shastra’s Blog
‘Sharing Yourself With Others’
This can be a difficult subject in today’s world because there are so many reasons to not feel safe as we go through our day.
IN DAILY LIFE- IDEALLY ~
We want to always use our bodies energy as a gift to others, especially in daily life
How do we do that? We can open our energy field when at the store.
Women tend to naturally do that more than men.
The more open we can keep our energy field thru out our day, the healthier our body will be and the more light and uplifting energy we radiate, really raises the frequency of our planet.
Thats the main reason we are here on the planet~~~ To Share ourselves with others
BUT~
It’s not easy. Most everyone has experienced some form of trauma, a negative relationship, or worse, physical, verbal or sexual abuse.
These Blocks can create-
Uptight body language, constricted energy
Not speaking up or being closed off to listening
Witholding touch
Introvertedness, isolation
Lack of connection with others= lack of success
SHARING YOURSELF SEXUALLY~
Tantra teaches the most ideal way to share yourself sexually with a long term or casual partner.
It’s different than average sexual merging.
There is a Beautiful Tantra Quote:
“When falling into love,(merging sexually with a partner), surrender not to the personality of your partner but surrender to love itself.”
Tantra teaches ways to open up ‘full body’ when sexually merging.
HOWEVER FOR SINGLES~
Discernment is the key.
How do singles determine if a casual encounter will enhance them or damage them. ?
My suggestion is- take the time to find out how traumatic their history is.
How does your body feel in their presence
If they have experienced trauma there are many wonderful ways tantra offers to go slowly and help them to shed the reasons for their closed off nature around enjoying amazing sensuality and sexual fulfillment.
Not allowing full penetration until you know them better is best for both.
FOR COUPLES~
The same thing applys, to go slowly and not allow full penetration until emotional healing can occur.
REMEMBER….. YOU ARE A GIFT TO THE PLANET. YOUR BODIES ARE MUCH MORE THAN YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE!!!
Sex is Actually More Addictive to Women!
Hello Sensual Spirits!
Sex is Actually More Addictive to Women….In a different way.
Did you know, women who experience full body touch, a feeling of heart safety to surrender, a cozy surroundings , and are allowed plenty of time to warm up, actually will go into withdrawal if their partner does not return promptly.
We can experience a major brain high and go into an altered state of consciousness.
It’s not as easy for men to do that but In tantra, if men learn the full body practices they can too.!
The cervix is a magic place that encourages altered states! More oxytocin is produced there, which naturally opens our hearts and opens the door to bonding, even bonding with our children!!!
Normally in ‘Self Pleasuring’ A woman can’t loose control like
with a partner.
BUT~
Tantric self pleasuring practices offer a way to do just that. !
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HAVE YOU TASTED ECSTASY?~
THE ROAD TO SEXUAL FREEDOM & ALIVENESS ~
Is Easier Than You Think!
We Learn To Master The 3 Jewels~
…The Mind
…The Breath
…The Body’s Spiritual Nectars
WE MUST ABANDON THE MENTAL
It Greatly Holds us Back. Dwelling Only in the mind- Is The Lower Path
A TANTRA STUDENT SEEKS HAPPINESS THROUGH THE BODY
Including sex but going Way Beyond the energys of sex alone.
GUESS WHAT!!! THE BREATH IS THE BRIDGE! OUR LOVER FOR LIFE!
The Deep Tantric Breath—
* Gives us the courage to face deep fears * Quickly connects us with our True Self * Calms the mind
* Is the one thing we can always count on to be there as long as we are alive.
DO YOU HAVE A FEAR OF FEELING YOUR FEAR?
“All Fears play out in lovemaking”
I have found in working with people, that once I help them identify and then release the fear of feeling the fear….. So Easy— Rapid Healing Occurs.
IT’S BEEN HAPPENING SO FAST!!!
SO~ IF YOU’D LIKE TO EXPERIENCE THIS FREEDOM~
I ENCOURAGE YOU~
Book a ‘Tantric Breathwork Private Coaching ‘Session Here: (Zoom or In Person)
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EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION~ And Fulfilling Sex!
Turning sadness into Passion…. For Life… and Love!
Hello Sensual Spirits!
THERE’S A CONNECTION BETWEEN REPRESSED OR UNAUTHENTIC EMOTIONS AND BORING SEX!
I worked with one couple married for 30 years. They were really not on the same vibration. The man had not cried in 40 years. So he could not understand his wife’s range of feelings. It was amazing to watch their relationship transform. He finally gave himself permission, thru tantric practice and healing, he surrendered to allow buried pain, …. He really let go. He Cried!!! Their relationship now is deep and full of joy. !
I have had many people, both men and women, confess to me that they feel either too emotional or frozen emotionally.
WHAT TURNS NEGATIVE EMOTIONS INTO FEELINGS OF
HAPPINESS & JOY?
RECONNECTION WITH YOURSELF! THAT’S IT!
THE BEAUTY IS… YOU CAN TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED…NO RUSHING…IT’S ALL PERFECT!
MY DEFINITION OF EMOTIONS:
They are usually negative
They are usually caused by low self esteem
Are usually not entirely true and may be irrational
FEELINGS ON THE OTHER HAND:
Are usually associated with happiness and joy
Create relaxation in the body, they are like a relief
Result in moving you physically closer to others
(Wikipedia doesn’t agree with me but what the heck.)
Then we can go WAY PAST ROTE PATTERNS OF SEXUAL INTIMACY!!!
There are many ways to transform our negative emotions….
during lovemaking! You can learn them through private tantra sessions!
NON SEXUAL LOVING TOUCH, DEEP BREATHING & HEART CONNECTION CAN ALSO BE A GAME CHANGER!!!
SOLO WORK~
I always say, for the best growth in relationships there should be a balance of solo tantra work
and partnered practices.
Let’s face it…. Tantra IS A FAST TRACK TO HAPPINESS…. But Bumps in the road come up quickly too.
Tantra offers a solution for everything.
(I am a little prejudiced. LOL)
Reach out if you have questions!
Phone chats are available!
With Ecstatic Joy,
SHASTRA
SEXUAL SHAME ~ Sexual Frozenness ~
How is sexual shame preventing you from living an expressive and happy life? This is a big subject. And we all have it to some degree.
Do you sometimes feel frozen sexually?
Or do you judge yourself for being ‘Too Sexual’ ? Guilt can be a cause of this type of judgement.
Or are you not satisfied with how your sexual parts look?
These are all subjects to each explore separately. Our bodies contain so much wisdom to help us rise above some of these issues.
Sexual energy is NATURAL and if expressed w/o shame is SO POWERFUL, just think of the way you feel after an amazing sexual experience, PRETTY EXPANDED, I imagine, and do you feel limitless!!! Like you can accomplish anything!!! At least for a day or two.
There is a saying, that we orgasm when we can’t handle any more pleasure…..
This is where sexual shame comes in. It can be slight at first, we can make up excuses like, “well I have an appointment to get to, I had better stop for now.
Conscious Sex, tantric sex, is all about Going Slow & Noticing ….the deeper moment to moment feelings with in ourselves and our resistance to full mind blowing sex. You can even practice these awarenesses by your self.
Today I want to focus on sexual frozenness.
For women, our bodies can shut down after a negative sexual experience or relationship. It is really our minds and our amygdala, that has stored the trauma, that tells our body to contract. But our body actually can shed the trauma and rise above it and release the storage of it in the amygdala,. If we let it.
In the tantric path this is done thru many specific practices, including the breath, and specific self touch and other practices. We don’t have to stay stuck. We have more personal power than we think.
For men, the same thing can happen. You can lose your confidence after a negative experience or relationship. And shut down sexually and emotionally. Of course it can manifest into P.E. Or E.D. I always encourage men to go deeper. There is a great opportunity to admit that your sensitivities matter, and connect to what your real emotional needs are. Maybe you are not loving yourself enough to admit what you want in a relationship and in sex, And then Asking for it.
For these issues I find three things very helpful:
…Renew a relationship with your sex center, allow all emotions to be felt and be expressed and released
…Resensitize your genital area with a special tantric self pleasuring practice
…Start connecting your genital area with your heart
THERE ARE MANY TANTRIC PRACTICES YOU CAN DO TO ASSIST YOU.
WE WILL EXPLORE OTHER ASPECTS OF SEXUAL SHAME SOON.
I love you and am here for you.
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THE POWER OF OUR SEX DRIVE ~
Unconscious Sex Drive wants to act out to repress emotional pain.
Conscious Sex Drive wants to express passion & love. But the
heart can know if you are using your sex drive to repress deeper
negative feelings or to express love.
The PURE HEART is free from longing and holds compassion for another’s
repressed heart. It knows how to WAIT, for the sake of another. PURE
HEART has the ability to discern what kind of loving another wants, in
the moment.
Even the most hardened man, who has pushed away his longing for the
tenderness & love of a woman, in favor of his pursuit of money &
career, will eventually have to come full circle, knowing that by
abandoning his connection to the feminine, he is not whole and can
never reach full enlightenment. Sex Drive knows this, and serves as a
profound spiritual catalyst; pushing, pushing him to move forward
toward the feminine, even when his wounded heart & head says NO.
Even the most self sufficient woman, who has convinced herself that
risking another experience of hurt by opening and revealing herself,
even to her own partner, is not worth it; will realize eventually that
without the amazing gifts that the empowered masculine has to offer,
she can never really feel fulfilled. But her Sex Drive knows… and will
keep pushing her… until she can remain open..always… in her loving.
So tonight, take another step… to move into your natural roles…as the
masculine… to reach out…to the feminine…and admit your longing to be
close to her. And as the feminine…have the courage… just for one
night…to accept and surrender to your own vulnerability and receptive
nature… and admit to your masculine partner or essence… your longing…
to be taken over by male spiritual strength & passion.
So tonight, just RELAX… in the presence of love itself!
BLESSING YOUR PATH OF LOVE,
SHASTRA
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Thank you Shastra. Very insightful!
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